When someone asks you out and you’re just not interested, it’s hard to say no in a way that doesn’t leave him or her feeling rejected and you feeling guilty. Here are the Dos and Don’ts for letting someone down gently:
Do
· Keep it simple. Say no, offer one simple reason and leave it at that. Don’t go on and on about why you just don’t want to be in a relationship right now, or make excuses about how busy you are. You’re saying no, they get it, just leave it at that.
· Compliment them. Say something like “You’re such a great friend” or “that’s such a cool date idea, but…”. Offering up a compliment before you say no can help to soften the blow.
· Thank them. It took them a lot of courage to ask you, so make sure that doesn’t go unappreciated. Say something like “Thanks a lot for asking me”. Show them that you’re flattered and impressed by their courage even if you don’t want to go out with them.
· Be honest. Don’t make up a story about already having a boyfriend or girlfriend or having other plans if you don’t. They might find out the truth and will feel even worse than if you were just honest in the first place.
watching a thing on our local pbs station about agriculture in ohio
these dudes are talking about artificial insemination
of bees
bees
The blooms of the Abracadabra Rose are striking, with its rich striped blends of light and strong yellows with pink and purple stripes and blotches, every bloom is different with occasional buds and trusses completely in one colour, blooms are borne in clusters of up to 7 per truss.
Photo credit: Kathie M. Thomas
The last telegram ever is about to be sent
On July 14, someone somewhere in India will tap out what is being called the world’s last telegram. India’s state-owned telecom company, Bharat Sanchar Nigam Limited, has been holding out as other countries around the world retire their antiquated telegraph services. Now, after delaying the move for two years, the business operating what is considered to be the world’s last telegraph service is finally ready to pull the plug, saying telegrams are no longer commercially viable in the age of digital communications.
sorry but according to physics you’re not allowed to be both cool and hot so try again
Body Language Cheat Sheet for Writers
As described by Selnick’s article:
Author and doctor of clinical psychology Carolyn Kaufman has released a one-page body language cheat sheet of psychological “tells” (PDF link) fiction writers can use to dress their characters.
This is something I have always encouraged people to consider when writing. If you can afford it, and you have one in your area - TAKE A BODY LANGUAGE CLASS. It will open your eyes to a whole new world of subtleties you never knew existed. SO worth it as a “Real Life” skill and for all those times when you’re writing and you need your character to react nonverbally.
There is also, in addition to these others, the writer resource book: The Emotion Thesaurus by Angela Ackerman and Becca Puglisi
I forgot about this, but back during Christmas Break, I put Star Trek in front of my cat to see what he would do. To my surprise, he actually did watch it. However, he only seemed mildly entertained - that is, until Scotty started talking. Then my cat actually paused the episode and stared at him. He just stared at Scotty and wouldn’t let me press play for, like, four or five minutes. After that, he watched for a while, but gradually lost interest and started dozing, only looking up when he heard Scotty’s voice.
Can someone please explain to me why my cat loves Scotty so much? Was James Doohan secretly some sort of magical cat whisperer? What is this?
oh
my
god
i think your cat has a crush
my-beds-perfect-for-hiddleston:
beards make you hotter.
this is science.
Actually having more facial hair/stubble is a sign of higher fertility in men. So yes it is actual science.
Hear that ladies I can give you all the babies!
(Source: nicholasandrews)
(via psych-facts)
According to Forbes, the least valuable college majors include English, history, anthropology, humanities, philosophy, art, and music. It should be questioned whether a society that so undervalues these fields deserves to continue.
…(•¿•the society XOR the fields of study)…